2 Questions That Can Help You Live Life to Its FullestBy Homaira Kabir
Most of us tend to live a fair bit in the past or in the future. We ruminate about what we did wrong when things don’t go our way. We worry about what can go wrong when we face uncertainty or are called to step outside our comfort zone.
At the same time, this uniquely human ability to time-travel helps us learn from our failures, reflect on our behaviors, and visualize and plan for a better future. The secret to a well-lived life, as professor emeritus of psychology at Stanford University Philip Zimbardo has found, is in having the right time perspective. This means not just knowing how much of our time to spend in the past, present, and future, but also being able to engage with these different stages in positive ways.
In my work to help people show up with self-worth and confidence, I've found that asking ourselves two questions when we're caught in the mental chatter of rumination or worry allows us to sift between the essence and the noise, make better decisions, and show up fully every day.
Step into the Past: What would my 4-year-old self want?
It’s counterintuitive to ask ourselves what our immature selves would have done in a situation that calls for insight and rationality. But it’s often reason that makes us prey to "paralysis by analysis," disconnects us from our true desires, and hooks us onto other people's expectations of us. “Reason is slave to passion,” philosopher David Hume said back in the 18th century. We justify